? Balance and Harmony ?

As a Life Coach and Spiritual Adviser, finding an e-mail message from someone with a problem is a common event. They arrive in my mailbox from all over the globe. Peoples problems may vary but the theme is often the same. They lose sight of their desires because of the distractions of life. The first message today read:

“ I feel like things in my life aren’t how I want them to be or how I planned for them to be. Something only I can change. I also haven't found an internship or job yet. The person I met with a few months back told me that the job he had in mind for me, isn't going through. I try to stay positive but it seems as if I have no motivation in life right now. My son, that I spoiled, has been giving me a hard time...he doesn’t listen and has been giving a lot of sassy attitude, talking back. I just can't find the patience and I feel as if I am drowning in the situations I put myself in, with no one there for me to reach out to. Sorry I just had to vent.”

My impression was that this person needed a new focus; what did she want? Since we empower whatever we think about it is essential to keep attention directed to a positive path, something other than the downward spiral that she presently saw happening. My reply to her e-mail suggested making a list since ‘today’ can only change by designing a different tomorrow. Where did she want to see herself in 6 months, next year, in 5 years? What did she want to be doing, having; where did she want to be living and most importantly, what makes her feel happiest about herself? I recommended making a list and look for pictures or photos that could support those wishes. Make a poster. If she hung the poster where she would see it every morning and evening, affirming desires as though they were already a reality, she would be investing her attention in the life she wanted. A simple process but so powerful.

After clicking 'send', I pushed back from my desk and gave the same question free space to run through my mind; “What do you want?” Like a lightning bolt striking my chair, I felt my neck and shoulders tighten as I sat upright! I could not answer the same question! Since June I had been caught in a whirlwind of activity; changes in our household, passing an old friend, and projects on the place. The level of distractions even drove me to take leave from yoga classes. As the shock of all this realization passed, memory of a recent conversation with a good friend came to mind. I shared with him that events of the entire summer blurred in my memory like peering through a warm butter smear on glass. The equation echoed the message I had just read; one laced with similar doubts. Life had become a distraction from personal practices I use to keep me balanced and on target. No wonder my summer seemed so out of control.

Awareness is the first step, right? Following my own advice, the best I can do is gather pen and paper, then sit quietly and explore what I want to accomplish in the next 5 years. Then, just like eating an elephant, I’ll need to break that big picture down into bite size pieces to give me my next steps.

Creating Harmony

Harmony is more feeling than a state of mind. It’s a moment when our sense of being becomes free of distrust, pain or anger and our core regains the awareness of its synchronization or vibration with the Source of All Creation. It is as if we feel ‘called home.’ Like harmony,“Home" is a feeling more than a place. It's a feeling of being held in a space of comfort, acceptance and security. It may never have been part of your physical world; it might only have existed during time in the womb or before. However, your core holds that memory and recognizes when the conditions of your body, mind or spirit come into synch with that vibration.

If you have ever experienced the feeling of harmony, you can begin a ripple to reproduce it in your everyday world. Any feelings you have are yours, they are divine gifts. No one can take them away from you. They are lost only by surrendering them. So instead of letting go, hang onto the memory of the feeling. Sit quietly for 5 minutes or more 2-3 times a day and recall the feeling; embrace it so your being accepts that this sensation is yours; is you.

The more often you perform a ritual the easier it will become and the longer it last. It could become your awakened essence. Since thoughts and feelings are energy and all energy vibrates, you may soon see the world outside you begin to rise to one of harmony, as well. Would it be worth investing your time and attention to practice this ritual if you knew the everyday world around you would become just as wonderful as the sense of harmony makes you feel?

Challenge yourself to try this experiment. Relax and create a place of harmony within you, holding it for 5 minutes. Try doing this exercise 3 times a day over the next 10 days by anchoring it to something you already remember to do daily…like eating. Then post a comment and share your experience.